Spice Up Your Sexual Health With Mutual Masturbation

Contents

• What is Mutual Masturbation
• Benefits of Mutual Masturbation
• Spicing Up Your Sexual Health With Mutual Masturbation
• • Tips on Mutual Masturbation
• Summary

Mutual masturbation is often considered to be one of the most intimate acts between two people. Where both become vulnerable and show each other how they pleasure themselves. When people usually think of masturbation, it is something that a person does alone, privately, and sometimes secretly. But mutual masturbation breaks that image, where there’s another person with you while you masturbate. It can be a very erotic experience, but at the same time, it can be a very intimate breakthrough for all parties involved.

This is not to be confused with giving each other a hand job, or oral sex. It is quite different from one party pleasuring the other. Also, it is important to remember that masturbation is not a replacement for sex, but mutual masturbation can be in certain situations. It is important to make sure you and your partner discuss about each other’s needs, wants, and understanding of sex, masturbation, and mutual masturbation. Mutual masturbation is more about the individual pleasuring themselves with someone else, where they might also be masturbating.

Benefits of Mutual Masturbation

For those wondering about the benefits of mutual masturbation, here is a list of benefits of mutual masturbation:

1. Show your partner how to pleasure you - By masturbating with your partner, you are directly teaching them what turns you on and where it feels good for you. Not only are you learning about yourself, but your partner is also learning too! In addition, you can also learn about your partner’s pleasure.
   
   
2. Build trust and connection - When you masturbate together, it can build intimacy and strengthen the connections you have with your partner. According to sex and relationship therapist, Todd Baratz, “masturbating with a partner emphasizes sexual vulnerability”. The fact that two people are doing something together that is usually done privately, such as self-pleasure, is like sharing a secret.
   
   
3. Normalize masturbation and sexuality - By initiating mutual masturbation, you are taking a step towards more conversation regarding masturbation and sex in general. According to sex and relationship coach Nicole Buratti, mutual masturbation can be considered a form of sexual communication to open up conversations about your sexual relationship.
   
   
4. Spice things up - Sex can sometimes become repetitive; by adding mutual masturbation, you can add something new to the mix. The rules of mutual masturbation are very flexible, meaning you can easily change them to meet your and your partner’s wants and fantasies. In addition, the idea of mutual masturbation can safely fulfill the fantasies of voyeurs and exhibitionists.
   
   
5. A great opportunity to introduce pleasure items - Many people prefer using pleasure items during their regular self-pleasure sessions, so it makes sense to have them in your mutual masturbation sessions too. Mutual masturbation is a great opportunity to introduce them to your partner, this allows your partner to know how to use a toy in regular intercourse too.
   
   
6. It is a safe sex option - Self-pleasure together is one of the safest sex options available in terms of contracting STIs and pregnancy. While there is still a tiny chance of body fluids being exchanged if you are in the same room, chances are much lower compared to other forms of sexual intercourse.
   
   
7. Doable even if you are long-distance - One of the key points of mutual masturbation is doing it together, whether you are in the same room or over video/phone. Mutual masturbation over the phone can help you stay connected with your partner when you are apart.
   
   
8. The perfect option for when you’re too tired - There are times when you want to have some intimate time with your partner, however, you might just be too tired. Mutual masturbation is a great option to get both of you hot and steamy without too much effort.
   
   
9. Improve sexual health - Sexual health is more than just sex, it is about maintaining a healthy relationship with your partner, it is about enjoying and taking care of your sexual needs. Mutual masturbation can provide the perfect setting for communication regarding a sexual relationship while having an enjoyable sexual experience.

Spicing Up Your Sexual Health With Mutual Masturbation 

As mentioned in the benefits above, mutual masturbation is beneficial for your sexual health. Not only can mutual masturbation spice up your sex life, but it creates opportunities to learn more about your body, increase communication with your partner, and build intimacy. If self-pleasure can improve sexual health, then masturbating together can improve the sexual health of both of you, and take it one step further by allowing direct communication and understanding of both parties’ bodies.

For more details on how self-pleasure, in general, is part of sexual health read here.

Tips on Mutual Masturbation

Initiating mutual masturbation can be an intimidating request. Plus, the idea of masturbation in front of another person can also be very nerve-wracking. But don’t worry, there are ways to make it a little bit less scary.

Here are some tips:

• Communicate thoroughly with each other. Let each other know where your boundaries are and respect each other. Start slow and listen to each other’s wants and interests when it comes to sex, and start a conversation. According to Dr. Justin Lehmiller, “pick the right time and place, like when you're both aroused. Validate your partner and let them know how attractive you think they are. Then introduce the idea by saying something like, ‘I think it could be really hot if we try this new thing together.’ "
• Be on the same page and have each other’s consent. For example, if during the mutual masturbation session, one wants to touch the other person, it is essential to let them know and also ask for their permission.
• Start with phone sex. Like anything else, start with something simple and work your way up. Masturbating through phone calls can be less scary compared to having another person next to you.
• Do it in the dark. If you are with your partner and you are a bit self-conscious, why not try masturbating in the dark with them? The sounds alone can be quite enticing. As you get used to them, slowly get closer to each other or switch on the lights.
• Don’t overthink. Mutual masturbation can be intimidating and it might even cause some people to have performance anxiety. But it is important to remember to relax and enjoy yourself. Also remember, if you ever feel uncomfortable, you can stop.
• Set the mood. Being in the right mood and atmosphere can make a big difference. When in the right mood and with a person you trust, it can make it easier to do something like mutual masturbation. And just know the other person might be just as nervous as you and the two of you are sharing this moment together.

Summary

If you are looking for a way to spice up your relationship and sexual health, mutual masturbation is a great way! Not only can you learn about yourself, but also learn about your partner and thus, strengthen your bond with them. It is a great way to spice up the routine. On top of that, there are many other benefits of mutual masturbation, as mentioned in this blog, such as normalizing masturbation and talking about sex. Like anything else, be sure to properly communicate your feelings and thoughts, especially when it comes to trying something new like mutual masturbation. Take it slow and enjoy it bit by bit.